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17 year old son heard me in bed with my boyfriend  
I am 52 years old. My 17 year old son and I have a close relationship. I am 5 years divorced and I have barley been with any new guys since. I brought …

Ex husband's new girlfriend 
I don't want the girl my ex is dating around my daughter. I learned some things about her: 1. He was apparently dating her sister she decided even …

son with anger 
Well I have a 7 year old son. That has anger or no self control. I'm a single mother and he is the only child. He gets into trouble everyday at school …

Work Struggles/Considering Foster Care 
My daughter is 18 months old. Her father has never acknowledged her, especially since we weren't in a relationship when she was conceived. I don't receive …

unhealthy relationship 
My son (17) left home 4 days ago. His mom's girlfriend pick him up and he is living with her family. I am very worried..what can I do? I wouldn't like …

Teen daughter wants to live with Dad 
Hi, I've been divorced 11 years. My daughter is 14 and about a year ago started saying she wants to love with her Dad. He is remarried with a step daughter …

Housing  
Hi Sara! My question is how do I find information about housing for myself and my son. I'm at my wits end with friends and the kids and I sleep on the …

My son is soon to be fourteen years old 
Hi, I am a single mom to a son that will be fourteen next month - he has just started at high school this year. He was always a loving,kind child and …

Babies father is an emotional abuser. 
Hi Sara, I really need some advice, to someone who is outside my friendship and family group. I am 25 and about to become a single mum being eight …

Struggling with my teenage son  
Hi Sara, I just had a particularly traumatic morning with my teenage son. He had decided he was not going to school and I of course said that yes he was. …

Am I Really an Abusive Mom? 
Hi Sara. I'm a mother of a five year old kid. I love him so much but he really gets on my nerves most of the time. He does things that irritate not just …

Bad behavior and nothing seems to work 
I have a 10,7, and 4 year old girls. They do see their father but he does not discipline at all. I am the one who has to do it all. My 7 year old got …

how long should a punishment last 
I have a 16 year old son, he recently has been ditching school. I really shouldn't say ditching- because he just does not to wake up for school & misses …

single mom crisis: recent biochem grad can't find work and more 
I will try to keep this brief: I am a single mom of a 5.5 yr old girl. I am also a recent graduate (graduated May 2012) with biology/chemistry degrees. …

Death of a father  
Hi there, My name is Vanessa and I am a single mom. I was with my daughter father for 5 years, ages 19-24. I have a beautiful, amazing 4 year old who …

When to tell a man you have kids 
I just met a man at a singles happy hour briefly and he asked me out. We will go out this evening for the first time.. When should I tell him that I have …

I don't feel I am loved but just to be needed and be used  
Why my daughter is not treating me as nice as she treat to others after that I have done everything that I can for her the best?

How do I handle the transition? 
Me and my husband have been married for 6 yrs and for the past year he has not been able to work due to medical problems so he has been watching the kids …

Should I Stay or Should I Go 
Some years back I moved from a large city to the small town I grew up in. It was only supposed to be a temporary move, but I seem to have gotten stuck …

Please read and answer this asap!  
Hello, I am a mom with 2 teenage daughters. Their dad is very rich, but he is very hard to live with. He always hits me and he is a really bad father …

A father that is no longer in the picture 
I am a mother to a beautiful 15 month old baby girl that the father is unfortunately no longer in the picture. After finding out that Briana's father …

She won't get herself organised 
Hi, I am a single mum of three girls. My eldest is 18 and has been hard hard work- no input from her Dad at all. My problem is that i still have to …

Good kid - Bad kid 
My daughter is not a bad kid. She doesn't do any thing wrong because she doesn't do anything. She doesn't do drugs or drink or run around. She is 16 …

I don't have any friends or relatives to help me with my 6 months old son, where can I get help from? 
I am just getting out of a relation and my baby father refuse to help me with our 6 months old son. I have no friends or family member with me but I clearly …

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Is this the right decision 
OK. Me and my child's dad whom I dated for 3 years, broke up in Feburary of this year! It was too much for me. He cheated and broke my heart by saying …

How to get time to yourself ? 
Hi, My name is Chery'l and I'm 21 years old. I have a 1 year old baby girl and I'm seeking advice on getting some time alone. It's very hard because I …

Reviewing movies, books tv 
Do you recommend a website for reviewing things our kids read or watch?

Becoming a single mom 
I'm 7mos pregnant,my first time and I'm alone since I'm in a foreign country and the father of my baby ran away from me. I was told already to quit my …

Patience 
I am a single mom of 2 children. A boy who is 6 and a girl who is 3. I have a full time job and by the time I am done working I don't have any patience …

hello 
Hello, I am a single mom. My son is 6 months old. I need find a home for me and my son but I can't find that in Kendal because I work here, but that's …

Raising three kids while struggling financially 
I am a single mother of three kids. I take care of two by myself. What I want to know is it ok to break down sometimes when you can't afford to take care …

Young Single Mom Stuck in a Hole 
I am 24. I left my son's father 3 years ago. He is now 5. I've never had my license, I live with my parents, I don't work, his father doesn't pay child …

tips on goverment assistance and the process in state of Texas 
My job has just been down sized, I have three children and their Dad does not pay child support. What kind of programs or assistance is out there, other …

Housing! 
I'm a divorced mom of 3 small kids and I'm trying to find help with housing but I don't know where to start or how this all works!! Help!!!

Totally Selfish Teenager 
I have just recently moved countries so as my daughter can go to a very good private school to do her A levels. Her father and I are divorced(ten years)and …

My daughters inappropriate behavior! 
I am a single father and I am looking for a woman's opinion or advice. My 17 y/o daughter has recently (within the last month)started appearing around …

Tantrums 
My four year old son dislikes the word no and if it is said he just throws himself in the floor and throws himself around the house. Some days I feel …

My Teen 
Sara, my teen girl is smoking weed, I just found what should I do? I am against that. She is very good at school, only A at school, I want her to have …

Dating 
I'm a 22 year old single mom and I have a 2 year old daughter. Her father and I were together for only 3 months when I got pregnant and it was basically …

7 year old throwing away papers... 
I was just notified by my daughter's teacher that she found 3 crumpled up tests with low scores in the trashcan at school. I definitely push my daughter …

I don't know what to do about my daughters father  
My daughter's dad was there there for her whenever he could be and he tried to be there as much as he could. Now he's in jail. He calls me and writes me …

How to Manage 
I am a single mother of 3 ages 12 months, 2, and 7. I find it hard to manage the house work, raising the children, and going to college full time. I often …

Abusive Mom 
Ok here it is.. First my mom never hits me, I want to be clear on that. Me and my bother got into a fight at McDonald's and we threw ketchup on each other. …

Teen Daughter Dating 
I am a single parent of a 17 yr old daughter. We live in a 3 bedroom home. When my daughter has her boyfriend over, there is no place for them to have …

My Son's Father is Bisexual..... 
I found out my children's father is bisexual, I also knew for a while he was sexually abused when he was younger. I don't feel comfortable leaving my …

Morning Routine 
Morning Routine What should I do with my one year old son while I take a shower?

Choosing to be a single mom or not 
I'm not a mom yet but I am 3 months pregnant. The father left me and decided to not be a part of the baby's life. I'm 21 years old. I'm just scared to …

Crying Baby! 
HELP! My 2 month old baby won’t stop crying! I have had so little sleep I am beginning to hallucinate! Everyone says it will pass...but when!?! Sara …

My Ex is setting a bad example! 
I am a dad with disabilities. My kids’ mom is a “cool mom”; the life of the party. I want my daughter to go to college, but she is getting conflicting …

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When should new love interests be introduced to the kids? 
What is an appropriate amount of time for me, or my Ex, to introduce our children to a new love interest? What type of interactions would be best? Is …

controlling a 16 yr old boy, that can be violent. 
My son is addicted to the computer, does not mind any rules, including cleaning after himself, and can be violent. What do I do?

Teen Pregnancy 
Is it weird that I want to get pregnant at 15?

Communication 
Is it OK to have a personal life when raising a teen? If so, how do I balance that when my kids get mad if I give time to anyone else..

Pregnant. & single  
Hey Sara I just found out I'm pregnant but I'm single. I don't know what to do. I'm so stressed out and sad I don't know if I should keep it Please …

Feeling judged by my friends when dating  
I am having a hard time discussing my dating triumphs and woes with my mostly married friends. I feel like a lot of them judge me pretty harshly. I have …

16 yr old daughter dating 25 yr old boy 
How do I get through to my daughter that dating a boy that much older than her at her age is not a good thing. I just cannot seem to get through to her. …

How to keep the house 
I can't keep up on the housework around here and I feel like it's all caving in on me! I've always been housework challenged. I don't focus on one …

Hw Can a Single Mother Train Her Son to Become Great in Life 
How can a single mother train her son to become great in life and make him excel in all his endeavors?

An Unhappy Son 
Hi, I can't believe I'm asking parenting advice online but then again I'd do anything for my kids, so here goes: My 10 year old son is unhappy, …

Child in hospital 
I am a single mom of three, ages 17, 12, and 9. My 17 year old is in the hospital and wants me to stay overnight and I have no one to watch other two kids. …

Disciplining a 5 yr old 
My five year to me seems so out of control. She does any and everything she wants to do when I tell her not to, she constantly gets into everything that …

Starting over 
I became a single mom once I decided to leave my abusive partner, and once I left I found out I was pregnant again with twins. Now I'm carrying the two …

stressed from no help 
How do I deal with my stress of raising my son and always doing everything for his father since he won't do ANYTHING himself? I'm becoming overwelmed with …

Child support issues 
Single mom, child support order granted, father refuses to pay child support & quickly typed up Affidavit for son to sign stating he wants to live with …

They want it their way. 
How do I keep from feeling guilty when my children try to guilt trip me into giving in to their demands? I want them to be happy, but there must be boundaries. …

21 year old with a 1 1/2 year old amazing son and possibly pregnant with another child...need advice to jumpstart the great life I know I am capable of providing for us! 
My name is Alex and I'm 21 years old with an amazing 1 1/2 year old son. The father has never been in our lives. I haven't talked to him since I was 8 …

I Want Another Baby 
My son Jose is 9 yrs old on April 29th, and he's been asking for another baby but I don't have the partner figure at the moment. I also want to have a …

Early Bird Child Care 
What do single moms do when they start work at 5am? I do get off of work early as well 1 pm, but I need someone at my house from 4:30am for when he wakes …

Friends in middle school 
Hi Sara, I am a divorced mom of a beautiful girl. We live in a suburban area, where it looks like everyone is married and both me and my daughter are …

Single Mom Wants another baby 
Hi Sara, I am a single mom of one wonderful 2 1/2 year old boy. He is my whole world. However I find myself wanting another baby. And that isn't a sudden …

Sleeping 
My son is 2.5 years old. He used to sleep in his gripp before, alone. We bought him his bed, and he doesn't want to sleep there, but rather with mom. …

Going to School 
I see you went to school as a single mom. I have two young kids, ages 6 and 9. Can you give me any pointers on managing work, school, and kids? …

Television Watching 
How do I decrease the amount of TV my kids are watching? Sara says... This is a huge issue! We all know the hazards of too much of TV, …

Planning meals 
Sara, I need more information on planning meals. I LOVE the suggestions you give for one week. How about a few more??? I get stuck in the same old routine …

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