An Unhappy Son

by Sandy
(MS)

Hi, I can't believe I'm asking parenting advice online but then again I'd do anything for my kids, so here goes:


My 10 year old son is unhappy, and starting to show signs of behavior issues.

A little background. His father left us (me, our son and daughter) in 2010, Divorced in 2012. He remarried that same year to a woman with a 7 year girl.

My Ex has always been harder on our son expecting him to be more, and do all the normal boy stuff. Not says my son is not a normal boy he just has no interest in football or such sports. He loves to fish, hike, bike.

Anyway he hates going to his dad's every other weekend, he starts getting gloomy 3 days before. When asked why he says, 'Cause he treats me different than the girls, I don't even have stuff on my walls like the girls."

Example, he will ask to play the computer and is told no, my daughter or the other child asks the same and get told yes.

They got into a argument once and my Ex told our son he didn't have to come back.

I don't know what to do, I've trying talking to my Ex, which is like talking to a wall. He says it's my fault our son acts the way he does. My son is hurting cause he doesn't feel important to his father, and is starting to talk back, neglect chores, forget homework, and pick on his sister a lot. I know he's at an age where we are gonna have a few bumps but I can see the hurt in his face and know it's at the root of most of his issues.

Sorry to be long winded and maybe a low on details but this is 3 years in the making wasn't sure how to put it all into words.

Thank you
Sandy

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Counseling
by: Anonymous

You can tell the father that he is causing your son pain and emotional distress, and you feel that if he continues to constantly put your son down, that he will soon need counseling and he will have to pay half of those fees. Also, if he told your son that he doesn't have to come back, I would keep a log of how and when these things were said, and bring it up in a custody case so that your son won't have to go back.

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