My daughter's father is very inconsistent should I not allow my daughter to see him?
Hi all single moms!
Background: My dad died when I was 3 and I grew up with a second dad who was pretty harsh.
Fast forward to today. My daughter is 4.5 and loves her dad, however; he's very inconsistent in seeing her. Threatened when I have a new boyfriend to never see her again and often chooses work over her. When they spend time together it's hit or miss. He takes her to fun places but keeps her out too late and she gets cranky.
When she misbehaves he brings her to me or he gets very embarrassed and tells her shes a bad girl. He does rarely reprimand her. She is used to no boundaries with him. She even hit him in front if me and he says nothing except she needs to see a therapist. He says it's all my fault.
She's a spirited child and I put down boundaries with her.
Also when he does see her he asks for money to feed her because he says he has no money.
What do I do?