I started my single mom journey as a pregnant college student. People kept asking me if I was going to stay in school. I thought that was the oddest question. I was making minimum wage. What future could I possibly have if I left school?
So I went to school. I worked hard and I studied hard. I was so grateful for my town's new free Medicaid prenatal clinic that I didn't even mind being announced as the first low income pregnant lady to use it.
Ok... that's not true. I was embarrassed as hell to waddle in there, but I went. I was determined to have this baby and determined to stay in school. I dealt with the stares, the whispers, the fact that my child's father was nowhere to be found, and I kept going. I had a child to raise, and I needed money to do it. My ticket to that money was an education.
It worked! I got that degree and began building my career.
Along the way I met and married the man of dreams! (Or so I thought.) Before we were married 2 years, we added 2 more kids to our brood, and by year 4, we were divorced. I was not particularly excited to return to single mom status, but you play the cards your dealt. Right?
So on I went. I earned a master's degree and took my career to that of high ranking state staffer, and then on to the corporate corner office.
I was a single mom nearly every step of the way.
Therefore, you can imagine my frustration when I was constantly bombarded in the media and by politicians with messages about how ineffective I was because I was a single mom. I heard how poorly my kids were going to turn out... that they were going to be fat, poor, promiscuous, and drop out of high school. At first I ignored it, but the negative messages kept coming.
I thought, "What the heck is going on? I am not raising my children any differently than I was raised by my married parents." I didn't know if I was normal, or if what the pundits were saying was normal, but I knew I wanted to send a new message.
I wanted women to know that they could succeed as women, and that their children’s future was not dependent on their mother’s marital status.
But more than tell them, I wanted to show them how.
I launched Single Mom's Ask Sara to fulfill my mission of empowering single moms to create their kick ass life, rule their world, achieve their goals, prepare their kids for adulthood, and transform their families into productive and effective goal-oriented teams.
I know you don't have time to mess around. You want and need programs that are easy to understand and fast to implement. Oh... and you want immediate results!
Awesome! That's how I roll too!