I really need some advice, to someone who is outside my friendship and family group. I am 25 and about to become a single mum being eight months pregnant with a little boy.
The father of the child left me at 3 months, and I haven't seen him since 4 months.
Hardest part about it all is he still contacts me every couple of weeks, he wants updates on the baby. Yet when I say "are you excited about becoming a father he says "I'm scared" or "no because I have to choose between my happiness and my son" - he lives over the other side of the country and doesn't want to move here, but wants to have his son with him, a son he has admitted he doesn't want.
He constantly puts me down, emotionally burdens me, has not helped with one thing towards the baby, yet demands pictures of ultrasounds and pictures of my growing tummy.
We were only a couple for two months before I fell pregnant on the pill. he was all for the baby then, and said we would get a house and be a family and I would never have to struggle financially (he earns amazing money)... yet he's never given me a cent to help pay the rent, I had to move out because my parents didn't want a baby in the house, and I was living out of home before hand which is fine, but I'm now paying $450 a week in rent, I had to return to the head office and take a 50% pay cut to keep my job, I do the gardening, I do the cooking, cleaning, preparing the nursery, work full time and attend classes after work. He's never helped me once, and constantly says "I never see it from his point of view" - I don't care about his point of view, he left me after promising the world. I have back problems, my tummy is so big I struggle every day with little things like getting dressed or putting my shoes on or driving... I feel hard done by.
And now he is demanding a DNA test. after admitting hes been sleeping with people while I'm pregnant, passing on an STD to me, saying he would never love me and "I'm not his type" calling me fat (i am no where near fat)...
My friends always say how strong I am and how amazing I will be as a mother. I'm young, good looking, have a career and enjoy my life but I feel like this $%#@ has taken it all away from me. If he doesn't want the baby why can't he just leave us alone. He won't yet he loves to put me down all the time. I've made things so easy for him, no matter how much he has hurt me I still try for a friendship with him and I just can't do it anymore.
what do I do? Do I give him the DNA test then cut him out of our lives, or do I keep getting hurt by this boy for the sake of my child having a father. I feel like I'm going to be a single mum forever and its making me really depressed which is unfair on my son.
Please help me with your amazing advice.
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