feeling isolated

by kate
(Covington, Louisiana)

So I've been single about 2 weeks after my son was born. His dad just split and we divorced. I have dated off and on but no keepers and no-one good enough to bring around my son just yet. Now he is a pre-teen and spends a lot of time in his room, with his friends, doing things without me. And that's ok, but I am starting to feel so isolated. I don't have any close friends and few social friends. The Mom's of my son's friends are nice to talk to, but all married so I don't think it would work for me to try and develop those friendships. My desire is to start having a social life and make some new friends, but I don't know where to begin. Advice please!!

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Feeling Alone
by: Sara

Hey Kate!

Thanks for the question!

First...I applaud your decision to not expose your son to the people you date until you determine they are worthy. This is a big deal. Well done!

Now...for a social life.

First let me say, please don't discount married women. Most of my friends are actually married women. There are some great relationships to be had with these ladies.

Second...make a commitment to yourself to get out more. That's it. Just get out more. What do you like to do for you? Yoga class? Movies? Sports? Whatever it is, just go do it. You will meet people as you explore. Some of those people will become great friends, and you already know you share a common interest.

Finally, check out the Meet Up groups in your area. The whole purpose of Meet Up is well...to meet up. haha! Those who participate in the groups are also looking for new friendships so they tend to be pretty open and inviting.

Congratulations for taking care of you!

My best,

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